Monday, October 18, 2010

Birth Story

Birth Story:

I delivered two of my babies in the hospital, one natural and one with an epidural and I have got to say this last delivery at home was AMAZING in comparison. I was very surprised that she came a week late. In fact I was overly confident that she would come on her due date, her sisters did. Eve was born a few hours before her due date and Esther was born on her due date. Despite the wait, I think it was all DIVINE timing. I'm grateful my midwife was supportive for allowing us to wait it out. If It was my previous doctors they would have strongly suggested an induction. Don't get me wrong I tried some natural inducing methods and they ALL didn't work. The worse was the Castor oil, which royally sucked! I will never do that again. Just the thought of it, makes me want to vomit. I'm convinced conception and birthing time is out of our hands. Asenath has taught me so much about patience already. With that I hadn't felt waves (or contractions) that whole week. The night before she was born I felt tightness but no discomfort. It wasn't until 2am I felt my first REAL wave (contraction). I stayed in bed to see if I could sleep through it because I wasn't sure if they would be consistent. After about 3 of them I couldn't keep still so I got up and went into the living room where my sister was and asked her to time them. She quickly got me a hot pack and placed it on my back. I think she rubbed my back as well. I was trying to focus on my breathing that would increase the waves intensity to keep it consistent and it worked so after an hour of consistent waves 3 to 10 minutes apart I called my midwife and told her what was going on. I was a little hesitant since it was 3 in the morning and I didn't know for sure if this was going anywhere but I called her anyway. I had my sister wake up Mark so he could help out with the setup. I just chilled in the bathroom tub with warm water, lit candles & listened to my Hypnobabies CD (creating & visualizing your birth). I stayed in the tub for about an hour or so concentrating on my breathing and visualizing myself calm, peaceful & floating on water. Allowing myself to float calmly in this beautiful lake surrounded by beautiful trees. The sunlight was shining through the trees and landed on my tummy. Every time it landed on my tummy I would think of Asenath and how excited I was to soon meet her. Every time I would get tense I would say to myself peace, release & submit. Before I knew it my midwife was there applying pressure points to my body. She told me that the tub was ready in the living room so I could switch tubs anytime I wanted. So I got up and went to the living room. I started getting even more excited because I knew I would finally see my baby girl. When I got into the tub it was HOT! But it felt sooooooooooo good. It eased the discomfort I was feeling. When I was in the tub I had 3 people applying pressure points and massage on my body every time I had a wave. I felt loved, I felt what I was embarking was really something special with all the help that was being rendered to me. I remember feeling really exhausted that I couldn't open my eyes. I kept them closed the whole time to stay focus and really because I didn't have the energy to open them. I remember beads of sweat pouring down my face because the tub was so Hot but the hotness took the edge off the waves. I remember requesting a cold rag and within seconds someone was rubbing it on my face. I remember requesting Powerade and within seconds I was zipping it with a straw. My midwife checked me once and started to chuckle and the thought that ran through my mind and apparently Mark's mind as well "oh no I'm only dilated to a 3". So I quickly asked her why she chuckled and she responded "you re dilated to a 9 1/2 I don't know what's keeping her" I respond "Shut up, no way" I've been feeling waves a little over 2 hours let me remind you. I was pumped! This was indeed the fastest easiest labor I had ever had and I was astonished and excited that the end was around the corner. I asked my midwife if I could start pushing because I hadn't felt the urge yet and she said whenever you want. I had planned to breathe my baby out earlier but I was so excited and couldn't wait anymore the anticipation was killing me so I started grunting/aahing/moaning very loudly to get her out. I'm sure I woke up my neighbors down stairs but at least my two girls were fast asleep. Before I knew it she said don't sit down on your baby's head I got to pull over the cord it's around her neck. She asked me if I wanted to touch her head, I said no because I was so exhausted and it felt forever away. Finally the biggest relief, she came out! I can't believe how perfect things went! I was a little worried that my baby would be small but she was 9lbs. 1 0z. I was worried that I was going to tear because I pushed her out instead of breathing her gently out, not even one itsy bitsy tear. My responses was filled with shut up all over the place because I was so astonished. They probably thought I was so rude, but that's what I say when I'm surprised. Would I give birth at home in water again? OOOOOOOOH YAH! Not to brag or anything, but it was AWESOME! I hope everyone could get opportunity to say that there birth was AWESOME regardless the style they choose to birth. As long as it was what they envisioned for themselves or BETTER!

Asenath at 1 week:
This is my day chair where I nurse and nurse until I feel that my poor nipples will fall off.

Always tired but very content!


Last night she slept for 5 hours! Thank you my little princess!

11 comments:

Sally Jackson said...

I love your story--so happy for you that it was AWESOME!! I don't think it's too lofty a goal to bring your children into the world in such a peaceful, harmonious way. good for you Nita!

Abi said...

Congratulations! Your little girl is just as beautiful as her sisters (and her mommy!) I'm so happy for you that you got the natural, at-home, lovely birthing experience you wanted. Bien hecho!

The Kaufmans said...

So glad you finally got what you wanted!She's so beautiful.

Dirtius Wifius said...

5 hours?! I'm so jealous! Actually I'm jealous of the whole thing. I'm glad it went so well. :)

Kelli said...

I am so glad that everything went well for you! Awesome story, thank you so much for sharing it with us! Good luck with your new beautiful addition.

Natalie G. said...

Congratulations! I'm glad everything went so well! I guess things do go faster when it's not the first baby. So, tell me, what did you do with the placenta??? Did you get the pills made?

Da Denninghoff's said...

@natalie-oh girl i was so exhausted and so much on cloud 9 that i forgot to tell my midwife that i wanted to keep it. I think my husband was extremely happy that i totally forgot about it. they ended up donating it! when i finally remembered i was so bummed:)

Taylors said...

Yay!! What a wonderful experience!! You are such a strong amazing woman! Your girls are lucky to have you as their mommy!

Harn's said...

Congratulations!! Sounds like it was amazing!! I am so happy for you and your fam. She is so beautiful, I just want to snuggle her. I might have to keep this in mind when we have our next little one, it sounds awesome.

The Burnah Clan said...

wow, she is BEAUTIFUL! I really like that pic of you with her where you are smiling. beautiful. I'm glad it went so well! three little girls!!

Lacey said...

great story. thanks for sharing! congrats